: Re: How do I write meaningful emotional bonds? I have some problems writing romance. I guess that is because I've never experienced it, and maybe I never will. I tried practicing this genre, writing

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The paradox of writing romance is that it's usually primarily about keeping your lovers apart, not bringing them together. There's a reason most love songs are sad; it's because romance is something we tend to feel most strongly in its absence. Like nostalgia, it's defined by a sense of unfulfilled longing.

Even if you've never had a romance yourself, you've probably experienced the feeling of longing for something you can't have. Write that feeling, and save the moment your heroes get together for the very end of the book or story.

So: Something is keeping your lovers apart. Maybe they are too focused on their quest. Maybe they are on opposite sides. Maybe they hate each other. Maybe their families hate each other. But something is also drawing them together. They can't stop thinking about each other. They find the other person unexpectedly charming or attractive. They are finding excuses to spend more time together. They're fighting more than usual. It's that dynamic tension between the impossibility and the inevitability of coming together that will make this love live for your readers.

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