You ask an interesting question. However, you should consider the validity of the premise. Apply the same logic to other scenarios.

How can I write a fight scene if I've never had a fight?
How can a write a male character's POV if I've never been a man?
How can a write a space opera if I've never been up in space?

If we get into the mechanics and technical aspects of story-telling, your lack of confidence means you cannot write romance from a first-person POV. Third-person shouldn't be a problem because I'm sure you have observed people in love. In accordance with mantra 'show don't tell' all you are required to do is show the actions of people who you believe are in love. Not describing their feelings will probably make for a better piece of writing.

The truth is 'love' is not a 'standard' feeling. It is personal to the individual. You can't get the behaviour wrong. On the one hand you can go with Shakespeare's well used trope. "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

You should also consider that the answers aren't necessarily in a book or real life. Millions have committed their feeling to song. Joe: "I'm in love. Round and round I go, out of control - I'm in love."

Betty Hutton and Bjork couldn't control themselves.

Whitney Houston got all desperate: Meatloaf had his say: The Proclaimers went big: Over the centuries so many artists have written about their particular version of love - you don't actually need to redefine it.

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