: How to address family members solely by relationship in dialogue? Most English speakers probably just care about You, Mom, Dad, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Grandparents, Great-Grandparents and Ancestors,

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I would suggest that if this is a story, the character uses the Romanticized spelling of a particular word and then explain the direct translation by the narrator, and use the word as the address. I would also draw attention to the fact it's a foreign word by using italics every time it's brought up in narration (not sure on Dialog. Dialog should be less formal in grimmer than narration.). I recomend the following:

[Foreign Term], [description of relationship], [continuation of dialog].

The description should occur only on the first use of the term, to avoid repititon.

With rearguards to an English equivalent, there are "some" elements like this but they are much looser. Grandparents are usually given unique versions of gendered grandparents to avoid having to figure out which of the two female or male grandparents are being discussed. In my one family, my fathers biological parents divorced and both remarried, which led to three seperate pairs of names. (Mother's Parrents: Grandpa and Grandma. Father's Father and 2nd Wife: Pop-Pop and Mom-Mom. Father's Mother and 2nd Husband: Granddad (2nd Husband) and Granny (Father's Mother).) There are other variants too. Neither is more important than the other. Grandfather and Grandmother are seen as more former and descriptive and rarely are used in conversations. Parents and Grandparents are almost always refered to by their relationship role by their descendants than their actual name (referring to your biological parent by their given names is seen as rude or dismissive... though step-parents tend to accept a child using their first name out of respect for the person who is their real parent).

Siblings of parents and their spouses are "Uncles (male) and Aunts(female)" regardless of their actual blood relationship, though an official title for the wife of your parent's brother is an "Aunt-In-Law". Children will refer to them as Uncle [First Name] or Aunt [First Name]. Using a diminutive or a family nickname is perfectly acceptable (Uncle Joe instead of Uncle Joseph, Uncle Bob instead of Uncle Robert). The more adult nieces and nephews will drop the Uncles and Aunts in casual conversations, using their first name casually without honorrifics, and pick it back up moments later. Uncles/Aunts will refer to a collection of a sibling's children as nieces and nephews but individually will address them with their names.

It should be pointed out that in many families, the concept of an "Honorary Uncle/Aunt" may exist, which is when a child is instructed to call a very close family friend as Uncle//Aunt despite no familial relationships. A good example of this can be observed in the TV Show "How I Met Your Mother" which is framed by the Protagonist, in the future, telling his teenage children the story of the titular event during the early 2010s. When discussing the other four main characters in the series, the future!Protaganist will refer to them as the children's Uncles and Aunts (and later when the married couple's first kid is born he's referred to as a cousin).

Cousins will never address each other with any titles, though some spellings may denote a cousin's gender, in dialog it is moot as the two spellings sound alike.

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I would suggest including transliterations of the actual terms and including a glossary explaining them.

This is done a lot in English translations of manga where Japanese honorifics are kept in an English-readable format. Some of the most common examples are -san, equivalent to 'mr' or 'mrs'; -sama, often said to be equivalent to 'lord' or 'lady'; -senpai/-sempai, which is quite complicated; -chan, which is a cutesy honorific equivalent to the western -y (e.g. jane -> janey, susan -> suzy); et cetera.
This is one of the reasons why so many self-proclaimed otakus know so many honorifics - they learn them as part of reading manga.

Your readers may struggle at first, but they should hopefully get used to the terms (and learn a bit of Chinese/Korean culture along the way). The key is to introduce the most important ones early and spread out the more complex terms if at all possible. I.e. start by just introducing mother and father, then move to the siblings, don't mention the grandparents until a few pages later and don't mention aunts, uncles or cousins until the next chapter.

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If you are writing the story, you face a choice between making the dialogue more natural, or emphasising foreignness. @Amadeus explains the first option in detail, so I will not reiterate. However, it is possible that you don't want the dialogue to be that natural: your POV character might be, for some reason or other, a foreigner to this environment, or telling to a foreigner, etc. In such a case, you can use the original foreign-language terms (transcribed in English), or you can use their meaning. For example, in Heinlein's Citizen of the Galaxy, the MC has to adapt to a society with very detailed titles for every relative, and so you have:

“Oldest Son’s Wife, have all my senior daughters attend me.”
“Yes, Husband’s Mother.” She curtsied and left. (Robert A. Heinlein, Citizen of the Galaxy, chapter 7)

or

“As for you, Cross-Cousin-in-Law by Marriage, I’ll remind you—just once—
that my Adopted Younger Brother is senior to you. And I’ll see you in my
bunkie after dinner.” (Robert A. Heinlein, Citizen of the Galaxy, chapter 8)

The question becomes more difficult if, instead, you are translating a story from a language that has words for all those relationships to English, which lacks them. The translation should feel natural, as natural as it is to people reading the story in the original language. At the same time, the information about how each character is related to the others might be important to the story. In such a case, you would have to find a way to weave it in. That's the case where I'd go for the style @Totumus Maximus suggests. It might be redundant when you back-translate it, but you wouldn't back-translate it. In English, it would maintain both the natural manner and the information of the original.

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As someone has said in another answer, accuracy is less important in fiction than story itself. What matters is to convey sufficient meaning to move your story forward, and to do so in a way that will be understood by your readers.

On this basis, I think you have several options:

If using the correct terms doesn't serve the story, consider ignoring them. The purpose of dialogue is to serve the story, whether that's expressing character, relationships, describing setting or whatever. If something doesn't serve the story, omit it.
At the other extreme, use the correct terms from the original language. Explain them the first time they're used, or use them in a context where their meaning becomes apparent to the reader. Transliterate rather than using the non-Latin alphabet.
Use roughly equivalent English. "Hiya, older-brother-as-a-female-speaker!" doesn't good in English, but "Hi, Big Brother" sounds fine.
Invent a convention. For example, female siblings could always call their youngest sibling "Sis", but call older siblings, "Sister". An older female relative could be "Aunt", a younger "Aunty".
Research the way that people from (say) Korea actually handle this problem when they are referring to family members when they speak English, and simply follow suit.
If you need to, explain the relationship when new characters are introduced, and explain the associated obligations to the reader. Of course, this wouldn't be required if the reader is from the culture that you intend to depict, because they're introduced to the rules a child. But, if your intended audience is from another culture, you need to help them out. After all, your first duty is to your readers, not to your subject matter.
If the reason you want to use the titles is for one character to show respect to another, find another way to convey that respect. For example, a younger family member may offer their seat to someone older, or offer to carry something for them.

It may be appropriate to mix and match these strategies, but each character needs to be consistent in the way s/he expresses herself. Too much variation could be confusing, so mix sparingly.

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I have experience of a similar situation - not Chinese or Korean, but Indian. I married into a family that has Indian ancestry but now live in the Caribbean and in addition I have a large number of Indian (Guajarati) friends in Bradford, where I lived for a year or two.

There are words in Hindi for the different relations, just as you described for Chinese and Korean. Generally, these terms are used to denote relationship and sometimes said as a mark of respect (like calling older male people 'Uncle').

Some examples I'm familiar with, because I've heard them often, are Ajji (grandmother (mother of father)), Nanni (grandmother (mother of mother)), Mamma (Uncle) and Didi (elder sister), but there are dozens more. Have a look at this page: 55 Family Relationship Names in Hindi and English if you want to know more.

Point is, there are words for everyone that are independent of the actual names of people, and those words are used routinely instead of names. Of course, it depends on how close you are to the person you are talking to and, to some extent I'm sure, on the protocol that's been handed down from generation to generation.

If I were wanting to address family members solely by relationship in dialogue in this situation, then I would use the words I've just been describing. For you, it would be the English phonetic equivalents of the words used by the families you are referring to.

It might be confusing for the reader at first to be presented by these new (and seemingly made-up) words, but if you reinforce the message by making it clear who is talking to who at important parts of the story then it'll become easy for the reader to remember the various words. Plus, you'll expand their knowledge at the same time. I love me a book that I can learn new stuff from.

Good luck with your dialogue.

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You don't try to be accurate, you anglicize it. If you are writing in English about a Korean family, the reader expects you to translate dialogue into understandable English that is not awkward.

If the speaker is male, then his older brother is 형. If the speaker is female, then her older brother is 오빠.

But doesn't a Korean boy/girl do this automatically without thinking about it? If so, why should the English reader be forced to think about it? As you say, it sounds weird, and just like a real translator would do, you translate into what an English reader would be comfortable with: "Hi brother", with none of the nuance indicated by language that makes no difference to the story.

If it does matter to the story, show it, don't tell it. Find a scene to indicate it separately. Say this girl is a young homosexual and speaks as a male, her brother can kick back:

"Do not speak in the male accent. You are going to get yourself beaten bloody someday."
Ha-yoon said, intentionally using the male accent, "By you, brother?"
"No, I would protect you, as I do now, little flower. I am not the only person with ears."

Accuracy is not the goal of fiction. Fictional dialogue looks and sounds nothing like real-life dialogue when it is transcribed from tape verbatim, with all its non-word verbalizations and weird pauses and self-interruptions.

What you write must serve the story, nothing else, and you leave out "accuracy" that does nothing to advance the story. Certain aspects of Korean culture will undoubtedly influence the plot, but it seems unlikely these relationship tags do that very often. If they do, then devise a scene (like above) in which the English speaker is made aware of (what is to them) a strange cultural quirk that matters.

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It is all about the introduction and the interpretation of the character who speaks and is spoken to.

There is probably no proper way of addressing those family members using the English speech.

However you can make clear in what relation this character is to another character by a way of introduction or explanation.

For example:

When I entered the room Aunt Alice was sitting on the couch glaring at
the television. She was the older sister on my father's side.

And another example:

"Hello, aunt Alice." I said making sure I addressed her with her proper title, she was the older sister on my father's side after all.

This way you can use the English words to address the people English readers are used to. But still explain what title they deserve whether it is Korean or Chinese or any other culture.

Mind that you don't have to keep reminding the reader of this special title after you have described their title within the family as readers will (hopefully) remember.

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